They are all money hungry....

Dear Love Mechanic,

Lately, the women I meet seem to only be interested in men who have a lot of money. Do women really date men they are not attracted to if these same guys are willing to shower them with gifts? Is this what dating has come to?

Giving up,
Danny

Dear Danny,

I have heard this complaint from hundreds of men that feel as though women only want a man with cash. Many younger men are still in the "Securing Your Vehicle" phase in life and it can be very frustrating when competing with men that are further along in their careers.

Men with money also have a certain confidence that women are attracted to. Many women will go out with them for the fun and adventure even if they aren't extremely attracted to them... especially women who thrive on lots of attention.

Can you blame them? Let's face it; some wealthy men do have the cash advantage and yet many don't have the rest of the package. Success does add confidence yet doesn't guarantee that they'll close the deal.

Some rich men do lose out in the end though. Sure, they may get a trophy girlfriend, but they never have her heart. There are plenty of women that don't want a man with "big bucks," yet still want to know that he has the potential to be an adequate provider. You need to learn what women are taught to expect so you can play in the game and still win. Here are a few suggestions that might help:

Build your confidence
A negative "Vibe" and whining about this won't solve the problem nor will it turn any women -- materialistic or otherwise -- on. You need to refine and "tune up" the way you view success, money and the way you come across to women where those issues are concerned.

Discover what "type" of women you are attracted to
Some of the "gold digger" or "hottie" types are being bombarded by offers and can be spoiled brats. If you keep chasing after women who want nothing more than to make love with money, you need to take a look at yourself and see if you are going after what or who you really want. Broaden your expectations and you'll discover that some of the sweetest women are not looking for a "cash man," but a companion to hang with.

Be careful of the vibes you give off
All women (hot or not) want to know that a man has a secure job and is able to take them out. Some men project a "Loser Vibe" that comes out in his initial conversations with women. Make sure you're not one of them.

Dress for success
You don't have to be a big spender to win the affections of women; just get your act together and learn how to project more confidence with a few simple wardrobe tune-ups. Make sure your clothes are clean, your shoes are shined, and always present yourself like a star.

A man who knows how to get into a woman's head will be able to connect with her and see if she is only after his wallet.

Renee